ALYSSA DVER

CHIEF CONFIDENCE OFFICER
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Simple Acts of Compliment

images (1)“Wow!” Even as a linguistic wonk, no other word comes to mind.  I was just officially, on the record, thanked.  Someone cared specifically about me and appreciated something I did.  “Wow.”  Seriously, “Wow (with a genuine smile).”

For the past 3 weeks, I’ve been consulting at a fascinating company called, Globoforce.  They help other companies develop employee recognition programs that give employees a simple way to thank and be thanked by peers and managers.  Depending on the program, thank you’s can include gifts of varying value that can be redeemed for almost any type of gift or gift card. All thank you’s must be associated with one of the employee’s company stated values while the giver must also explains how and why the gratitude is being sent. Other employees can add comments and the positive performance is recorded as part of the employee’s ‘file’.  It is proven that social recognition programs like this can transform corporate culture and help employees work aligned to company priorities.  It also is an uber-confidence boost to both the receiver and giver.

My own user case:  When my colleague Megan recognized me, it was like a virtual hug, a digital fist pump, an electronic pat on the back.  In a new job where everything is foreign, finding the fridge is easy.  Learning what’s politically and socially OK isn’t so obvious. Megan clued me in as to the acceptable mores of the company – letting me know that my help wasn’t just useful relative to her task, but specifically, that my somewhat unsolicited advice was actually culturally cool.

Not only did Megan fuel my work engagement, my manager added his quick congrats upon approving the award.  That was like adding a confidence vitamin boost to the kudo smoothie.  That simple but very thoughtful compliment had a powerful Maslow impact on my sense of belonging and self-esteem. And in turn, the recognition quite literally motivated me to get to the office early today so I could do more ‘good’ work.

Yeah, me, the confidence crusader, even has those moments when I wonder if I am reading people correctly and if my own actions are aligned.  I always look for verbal and visual clues – but in a world where people are remote and/or too busy to engage, it’s often impossible to discern who’s unimpressed or just distracted.  Thus, we all have those moments wondering if our work is on the right track or simply tolerated.

As I wrote in Kickass Confidence, giving someone a compliment is a great way to boost your own confidence and I hope Megan got that rebound.  It surely was appreciated on my side and forever will be something that I will fondly reflect.  Like a first kiss, that initial kudo melted the anxiety of working with new people on a new project.  It gave me enormous orientation relief and encouraged me to get and give more…kudos (and depending on who it is, more kisses!)

So make it your daily business to compliment someone – it doesn’t have to be for some major accomplishment. Maybe she has nice earrings on or he helped you find something quickly.  Let them know! Doing ‘acts of compliment’ is a human superpower that you can use to motivate others, strengthen your own social capital, and have immediate meaningful impact.  Go put on your kudo cape and give yourself more confidence.

 

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5 Ways to Condition Your Confidence

We wear our confidence on our face, in our behaviors and communication.  It’s what helps us to be brave, creative, inspiring and resilient.  It also makes us occasionally regret, resent and recoil.

Our research at the American Confidence Institute (ACI) seeks to understand the causes and effects of confidence in individuals, teams and businesses.  We’ve learned from elite athletes how they prepare physically, mentally and emotionally so they optimally perform.  We’ve also talked with hundreds of executives, entrepreneurs, parents and people of all ages to examine how confidence impacts work and home life.

Therefore, I offer 5 easy confidence builders:

  1. Listen to your mother – sit up straight.  There are no bones about it – having your shoulders back and your abs tight will support your posture and your confidence.
  2. You actually get there faster by letting people pass in front.   Admitting to a mistake or otherwise letting other people off the hook takes courage.  Humility is the ultimate superpower.
  3. Listen to be heard.  Famous politicians make memorable speeches or win wars.  Inspiring leaders carefully choose their battles and their words.
  4. Fertilizing your own grass actually makes it greener. Try new things. Meet new people. Consider new ideas. If you are jealous of someone, figure out why and what you can do to be more like him/her.  Imitation is both a form of flattery and perpetually green turf.
  5. Fuggetaboutit. Next time you are sleeplessly upset about something you said or did, remind yourself that you soon won’t even remember the problem.  Unlike the mafia, your mind won’t hold on to such personal vendettas.

 

Want to learn some formal ways to assess and condition your confidence?   Go to ACI’s website: www.AmericanConfidenceInstitute.com

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Life is like a box of chocolate

Sure we all laugh at the line in the movie and possibly use it to describe our any series of unfortunate events.  For me, it’s a commentary about resilience and resolve.

A box of lovely looking, secretly concealing consistencies unknown until the shell is broken.   Like people and circumstances, you just don’t know what’s inside until you take a bite.  The legend on the box top is never that easy to interpret.  Then again, at least there is some documentation.     Chocolates come in white, dark and milk.  Occasionally they’re died and decorated, tattooed or molded. All have the same start as cocoa and sugar.  It’s the other stuff that is added that changes one to a bon bon and another to a chip.

But resilience and resolve?  No, I’m not talking about preservatives. I’m talking about the person who eats the chocolates unknowing of what they will actually bite into and find.  The discovery of what the treat really is and if you will like is the trick or the treat.  Some people will embrace the experience while others avoid it.  Some people will find that the first is a bust but try again and spin the chocolate wheel to pick another sample.

Life is so very much a box of chocolate.  You never know what you get and that may be good for some and not for others. It may entice you to try more or never again.  You may not even look at the box top and go for an entirely surprise adventure.  You may give some to your sweetheart on Valentine’s Day to see what kind of person she or he is by observing the selection process – kind of like a chocolate Myers Briggs test.

So go ahead. Eat some chocolate.  It’s good for you these days and who knows, you just may end up meeting the president, becoming a celebrity ping pong player, or even a shrimp boat captain.  Maybe it’s even a route to being a great partner and parent. Just ask Forrest. Forrest Gump.

 

Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Happy

Leave it to Madison Avenue to create a shampoo slogan than just cuts our confidence deeply.  Pantene’s “Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Beautiful” campaign mocked all women in our quest to feel better about ourselves while making other women literally hate us.  Doesn’t feel like a win-win to me.  However, it would be true that if I somehow emerged one day gorgeous, I bet many women would, in fact, hate me just because.  So maybe Pantene is right.  We, especially “we” women, have a hard time genuinely congratulating someone else when we’re not somehow part of their success.

Case in point, a friend made a snarky response to my genuine thank you after we went out for drinks.  Her response included, “It was nice seeing you even though some of us aren’t as enthusiastic as you are.”

Wow.  Was I that peppy or otherwise dominant?  Truthfully, no. I was just positive and as always, careful to listen while ensuring a mutual back and forth cadence sharing info, experiences and ideas.  I think it’s unfortunately often true that we don’t want other people to be happy when we’re not.

It’s easy to understand why there is jealousy but perhaps it is ridiculous to admit. So do you think happy people should consider being less happy around people who clearly aren’t?  Should they expect their happiness to have a negative response by less happy people every time?  Hell no!

The tougher question do you have friends that not only want you to be happy, be then want to unselfishly celebrate with you?  Do you have people in your life that are happy when you’re happy regardless of their own state of being? Do you support other people in your life (beyond your kids – which btw, is usually a selfish act too), that when they have a personal success or are happy just ‘because’, are you genuinely happy for them?  The New Radicals song “You get what you give” just may be a better personal anthem than the Rolling Stones, “I can’t get no satisfaction.”  Even the band names are telling!

When people are noticeably jealous of your happiness, it may be a sign – and exit sign that is.  These people are toxic to our mental health.  While you are happy – whether for good reason or simple naiveté – the people that only want to bring you down are the people you need to avoid.  You never should feel badly about your happiness. And, God knows, you aren’t responsible for theirs. Can you help them? Maybe.  Should you waste that time and energy?  Maybe not. Whether you help them or not, do NOT let them damped your happiness flame!  It is not only your overall pilot light, but it can ignite others  who are more receptive and also want to shine.  If your own flame is out, you simply can’t inspire the rest of the  wanting world with your own bright perspective.

So, be happy, but do worry!  Worry about the people who would prefer you to be miserable like them.  Worry about how they are more apt to put you down than pick themselves up.  Worry about letting them bury your energy, especially when other people really dig it.  Happiness is such a rare commodity, that you should wear your happiness like a big old diamond ring.  Hopefully you won’t get physically mugged with your good mojo on, but emotionally, don’t let anyone try to take it from you. Wear it proud and heck, even smile.  Yeah, some people will undoubtedly hate you for being beautiful AND happy.    Oh well.

Life on a school bus

After the news story last year about a 68 year old woman, a school bus monitor, was harshly harassed by a bunch of middle school boys, I can’t say I was utterly affected by it.  Maybe I was relatively indifferent because she was old enough to defend herself.  Maybe we all assumed she was hired to keep kids in line, not be the cause of them going so far over it.  Maybe because Tina Fey taught us to expect kids, to be mean and its just part of Darwin’s survival of the fittest being exercised.  I actually don’t think that I gave it much thought to it then.

Fast forward to yesterday when my 9 year old son (I’ll call him Bob) told me his best friend (now known as Evan) wasn’t being “nice” to him on the bus.  Cutting through the usual drama Bob performs for us at home regularly, I asked Bob, what was going on.  He said, “Evan sits with other kids on the bus and makes fun of me.”  I asked why this was happening and received an also typical adolescent shrug.  Later that day, after the two boys had a seemingly good time playing in the snow, I took the opportunity to close the playroom door so they could talk about “the bus”.  After Bob’s intro, Evan admitted to making fun of Bob with some of the other kids because Bob was going to a morning fitness class and the boys thought it was so wimpy (actually a really kickbutt Reebok fitness class).  Evan defended his gang behavior by saying he just didn’t want to seem uncool. BUS-ted!

So I saw a great lesson for both: I asked Evan if he would be sad if Bob didn’t defend him if other kids were making fun of his robot camp or fascination with birds. While he thought it made him seem smart, others might see it as geeky.  I helped him realize that what is cool to one may be intimidating to another who is really ignorant or jealous.  I also explained the meaning of friendship and why standing up for what you believe in like your friends, is a sign of confidence and maturity.  I also told him that if he came to the fitness class himself, he would realize how hard it was trying to keep up with all the jocks that were now Bob’s friends.  Am-BUShed!

What I didn’t expect was that I would hear the other side of the story via Evan’s mom who is a respected educator.  She was utterly prepared to let the lesson play out even more thoroughly – not just for the kids, but us adults too.  The other side of the story was much different than either boy had confessed to me.  While we will never know for sure which actually happened, the entire episode clearly underlined that we all – including me – make rash judgments about things and people in our mission to do the right thing to be good parents and people. And sometimes it takes a yellow burning BUS-h to remind us that we are human in our pursuits to be inspiring leaders at home and at work.

So there you have it.  Lessons in life from the 4th grade school bus – like the bus, life often has no seat belts and it is rift with bullies who are too insecure to be tolerant.  Unfortunately as a gifted or otherwise eclectic individual, you just have to hold on until you get to your destination where there are others waiting that will appreciate your talents and values. The ride often seems too long and you should wear your best support undergarments to deal with the bumps (lest you aBUSe your BUSt!).   Remember its all part of the ride.  What matters is where you are going and not just what you learn once you’re there –  but what you learned getting there.

DeWine Intervention

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What no wine? No beer? No coffee?  I hate you!  Yup, that’s what I told my gastro doc recently. I mentioned in a previous blog post that I am dealing with a GI issue that prevents me from eating almost anything without coughing my head off (with all sorts of lovely side effects).  After being decaffeinated and subsequently utterly out of it for 2 weeks, I came to realize this curse might just be a blessing in digestive disguise.  I realized that it might actually help me to me lose those 20+ lbs.  on my 2013 goal board.  Post detox, I came to peace with this divine, or more accurately, ‘dewine’ intervention that is the only way I would have stopped eating and drinking at the rate I was.  I would never been able to lose weight or spend less at the rate and with the denial I had going on.  In fact, my GI condition turned out to be a swift kick in my obese attitude that made me realize I was really just faking myself out.

Every time I would go to the doctor, he would say, “Ya know…losing a few pounds would be a great thing.  Even just 15 lbs. would make a big difference.”  I would answer with all sorts of claims saying I was trying my hardest and I was barely eating and watching what I drank.  I actually believed that, too.  In fact, I exercised just to have an excuse to eat and drink.  I motivated myself during a class to do one more set of reps so I could really enjoy that glass of wine or other caloric reward. Did you know you can actually avoid looking into mirrors – even in gym studios and in dressing rooms?  I would stand at the back of the gym class so I would be far away enough in the “good” mirror to look really thin – that is, provided someone thinner didn’t stand next to me.  Skinny bitch!

Isn’t that so pathetic?!  My recent GI challenge has made me realize that I clearly was not faking anyone else out except me. I hear that me self-awareness is half the battle.  Good, because I’m armed and as dangerous being a wine deprived woman!   So, what I’m ready to battle with is not my weight but rather my honesty with myself.  Avoiding a mirror doesn’t make me thinner nor does avoiding accountability for any actions or dreams that I really do want to achieve.

My goal board says “lose 20 lbs” among a handful of other things I want to do this year. With a little help from the GI gods, I’m on my way.  My other goals are happening, too, and probably only because I put them on the board where they stare back at me every day.  From the corner of my desk, they passively question me, “What have you done for us today?”  I structure my priorities and try to do as I write. I have put my plan into the universe and requested that the laws of attraction assist me.

One of my goals is to do less.  Another goal is to stop panicking about money and focus on what I already have in my life that is both financially and otherwise notable success such as my kids and my marriage.  But despite knowing these things, and even acting on them as best as I “think” I can, it’s easy to glean through the list and not buck up to the reality that what I am doing is never going to get the results that I desire. Sure, having the list is a great start but really embracing the urgency and my actual ability to tackle the list is what I so often dismissed.  For me, it took a good kick in my gut and throat that gave me no choice but to stop swallowing so much and slow down, chew and choose wisely.

With limited time in all our days and lives, the core goal is all about what is important to you as a person to be happy and healthy.  You really can’t fake it either over the long haul.  Look in your mirror – proverbially or otherwise.  What can you change that is bugging you and sabotaging your confidence?  Is it your weight? Your skin? Your financial security? Your mother? Your marriage?   Put a plan in place, and finally deal with it. You can ask for help from the universe at large, your family and friends or from a paid life coach or shrink.  What matters is NOT that you are conquering the issue, but rather that you recognize it as a cause of stress and you are deliberately taking control of it – and not it of you.  That control is empowering on its own.  And regardless of the outcome, you’ll probably feel a lot better having tried your honest best.  Can we together drink to that? Aloe juice of course!

 

Unrequited Online Etiquette

When you recommend or endorse someone online in LinkedIn or another online social setting, do you expect them to do the same for you?  Do you get pissed when they don’t?  How about people who unsubscribe from your newsletter or unfriend you?  What about someone who simply doesn’t hit reply to thank you for an introduction or other beneficial piece of info you emailed them?

So why do we – and yes, I’m included in that statement – get so angry when someone disses us online?  I think because it’s so carelessly reckless.  Having just sent out an online newsletter, I was reviewing the opt outs and was surprised to see people that I personally know who hit the link of disconnect – the unsubscribe me link that means they don’t want any more newsletters from me.   “Hey!  All you unsubscribers out there” (not that you are reading this blog now either) “don’t you know I saw what you did!  And now, I am unsubscribing to you online and all other ways!  If you had just ignored my email, we could have still been friends. I’d never know.  But you went to the trouble of unsubscribing from me!  Well, that is it…I’m clearing all my email and browser history!”

Seriously (now that my rant is complete), it’s worth considering the message you may be sending either intentionally or not when you unsubscribe or otherwise blatantly remove yourself from another person’s online world.  What offends us as the sender is the thought that someone out there doesn’t want to be part of our world and could easily hide that without much effort.  Rather than take the time to unsubscribe or unfriend, just mark the email as spam or otherwise delete it.  I bet you have tons of friends on Facebook that you don’t message or tag.  Just ignore me rather than blatantly disconnect from me! When people tell us that they don’t care about what we have to say (online or otherwise), it clearly hurts our feelings.  It makes us feel less respected and less confidence about our worth.

So I offer 3 thoughts to get us all through times when our electronic esteem is compromised.

1) Remember not everyone is going to be a ‘good’ friend or business colleague – not everyone is going to like you so stop trying to assume that impossible to do.  Perhaps it’s a sign that its time to move on and find new fish to feed and friends to focus on.  Shoot, maybe its time to do less online stuff and actually have a phone or in person conversation with someone!  Maybe they’ve forgotten how cool you really are!

2) It’s a good opportunity to evaluate your message or content to see what it was that could have turned them so off.

3) Where it makes sense for YOU, go back to that person and tell them you were disappointed to see that they unsubscribed to/unfriended you…and ask why!  Maybe they didn’t do it on purpose and maybe they have no idea that you are so aware they did it…Ah, the sweet ‘revenge’ of taking the high road assuming they didn’t realize how hurtful they were with the click of an unsubscribe link!  Maybe they’ll think twice before doing it again to you or someone else.

It still feels lousy when someone communicates behind the computer wall that they don’t like you, something you said or do…but then again, we all do it and rarely think about the impact it might have on someone else’s confidence.   Tread lightly online and when you get trounced, just don’t lose perspective that it happens all the time to everyone.

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Who Else is Coming? Then I’ll decide.

Why does it matter who is going to be at the party, the luncheon or the networking event?  Is it because you want to avoid someone or is it because you only will bother going if someone there is worth your while.  Either way, get oevite-event-208x300ver that. Start making the event, not milking it.  That is, why not look at an event as an opportunity to meet and inspire other people, even if you don’t like or even know them?  What about going to an event to practice your social skills or challenge yourself to listen and find something interesting out of it.  If someone is there that you are really trying to avoid, set the record straight and overcome that obstacle by being a bigger, more confident person.  Sounds too easy, I know.

As I write this, I am hosting a gaggle of teens watching one of my favorite movies, “Keeping the Faith”.  We will talk about it later together and discuss the issues raised such as religion, sex, friendships, careers and friends.  I admit, it might be intimidating if I were 13 again.

However, the kids that were invited were, for the most part, open to the Friday night diversion.  One, however, would only decide once he knew who else was coming.  I wasn’t sure his MO and I also admit that I dodged the question as it came pathetically in email.  However, I joked about it to find out the cause only to be told, he just wanted to know.  I can’t remember what it’s like to make all my decisions based on hormones but I pretty much think it’s like being stoned, you look fine but your brain has left the premises.  Oh wait, I do remember. It’s like menopause…so I hear, that is.

 

No, I’m not stoned myself, just noting that if we made decisions based on who is or who is not going to be in our day, we might miss the chance to meet the people that show up and surprisingly make us better and stronger than anyone that we already know could ever.

So, next time, head on over to that next networking event and master the science of small talk and ultimate art of big listening.  Meet new people as if they are the one that is just might change your destiny forever for the better.  Who else is coming? Doesn’t matter. Practice “keeping the faith”. The important people will all be there if you are.

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26 Successful People Who Failed At First

I loved this so much I have it hanging in my office so I can remember success isn’t always easy or i our control.  However, it also reminds me that failure is a only a step in the ultimate direction, albeit one that sometimes feel like being lost.

I hope you enjoy it as well.

1. Winston Churchill failed the sixth grade. He was defeated in every public office role he ran for. Then he became the British prime minister at the age of 62.

2. Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was “too stupid to learn anything.” Edison also famously invented 1,000 light bulbs before creating one that worked.

3.Harland David Sanders, the famous KFC “Colonel,” couldn’t sell his chicken. More than 1,000 restaurants rejected him. But then one did, and today there are KFC restaurants bearing his image all over the world.

4. R.H. Macy had a history failing businesses, including a dud Macy’s in NYC.But Macy kept up the hard work and ended up with the biggest department store in the world.

5. Steven Spielberg was rejected from his dream school, the University of Southern California, three times. He sought out an education somewhere else and dropped out to be a director.

6. Charlie Chaplin’s act was rejected by executives because they thought it was too obscure for people to understand. But then they took a chance on Chaplin, who went on to become America’s first bona fide movie star.

7. Marilyn Monroe’s first contract with Columbia Pictures expired because they told her she wasn’t pretty or talented enough to be an actress.

8. Soichiro Honda was passed over for an engineering job at Toyota and left unemployed. But then he began making motorcycles, started a business and became a billionaire.

9. Vera Wang failed to make the U.S. Olympic figure-skating team. Then she became an editor at Vogue and was passed over for the editor-in-chief position. She began designing wedding gowns at 40 and today is the premier designer in the business, with a multi-billion dollar industry.

10. Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Several more of his businesses failed before the premiere of his movie Snow White. Today, most childhoods wouldn’t be the same without his ideas.

11. Albert Einstein didn’t speak until age four and didn’t read until age seven. His teachers labeled him “slow” and “mentally handicapped.” But Einstein just had a different way of thinking. He later won the Nobel prize in physics.

12. Charles Darwin was considered an average student. He gave up on a career in medicine and was going to school to become a parson. But as Darwin studied nature, he found his calling.

13. Sir Isaac Newton was tasked with running the family farm but was a miserable failure. Newton was sent off to Cambridge University and became a physics scholar.

14. Dick Cheney flunked out of Yale twice. George W. Bush once joked: “So now we know –if you graduate from Yale, you become president. If you drop out, you get to be vice president.”

15. The first time Jerry Seinfeld went onstage, he was booed away by the jeering crowd. Eventually, he became a famous comic with one of the most-loved sitcoms ever.

16. In Fred Astaire’s first screen test, the judges wrote: “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” Astaire went on to be the most famous dancer of all time and won the hearts of American women forever.

17. After Sidney Poitier’s first audition, the casting director instructed him to just stop wasting everyone’s time and “go be a dishwasher or something.” He went on to win an Academy Award and is admired by actors everywhere.

18. Oprah Winfrey was fired from her television reporting job because they told her she wasn’t fit to be on screen. But Winfrey rebounded and became the undisputed queen of television talk shows. She’s also a billionaire.

19. Lucille Ball spent many years on the B-list and her agent told her to pursue a new career. Then she got her big break on I Love Lucy.

20. After his first film, Harrison Ford underwhelmed the producer and was told he would probably never succeed. But today Ford is the third highest-grossing actor of all time.

21. Vincent Van Gogh only sold one painting in his entire life, to a friend. He sometimes starved in order to create the 800 paintings he’d eventually do. Today, his works are priceless.

22. Dr. Seuss’ first book was rejected by 27 different publishers. He’s now the most popular children’s book author ever.

23. Henry Ford’s first auto company went out of business. He abandoned a second because of a fight and a third went downhill because of declining sales. He went on to become one of the greatest American entrepreneurs ever.

24. While developing his vacuum, Sir James Dyson went through 5,126 failed prototypes and his savings over 15 years. But the 5,127th prototype worked and now the Dyson brand is the best-selling vacuum cleaner in the United States.

25. J.K. Rowling was unemployed, divorced and raising a daughter on social security while writing the first Harry Potter novel. J.K. Rowling is now internationally renowned for her 7 book Harry Potter series and is the first person to become a billionaire from writing.

26. Stephen King was initially so frustrated with his first novel, Carrie that he threw it in the trash. King’s wife found the manuscript in the trash and took it out. To date his 49 novels have sold 350 million copies.

Lots of ccredit to site I found it on:

http://theburiedlife.tumblr.com/post/29566184945/26-successful-people-who-failed-at-first

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Live like a Dog

I love this as a dog lover and lover of life.

I hope it makes your tail wag too:

Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog’s owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.

I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer.

I told the family we couldn’t do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.

As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure as they felt that Shane might learn something from the experience.

The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker’s family surrounded him.

Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on.  Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.

The little boy seemed to accept Belker’s transition without any difficulty or confusion.

We sat together for a while after Belker’s Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, “I know why.”

Startled, we all turned to him.

What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I’d never heard a more comforting explanation. It has changed the way I try and live.

He said, “People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life — like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?”

The six-year-old continued, “Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t have to stay as long.”

Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:

  • When loved ones come home, always run to greet them;
  • Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride;
  • Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure Ecstasy;
  • Take naps;
  • Stretch before rising;
  • Run, romp, and play daily;
  • Thrive on attention and let people touch you;
  • Avoid biting when a simple growl will do;
  • On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass;
  • On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree;
  • When you’re happy, dance around and wag your entire body;
  • Delight in the simple joy of a long walk;
  • Be loyal;
  • Never pretend to be something you’re not;
  • If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it;
  • When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them gently;

There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it.

You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good, so, love the people who treat you right.

Think good thoughts for the ones who don’t ~ life is too short to be anything but happy.

Falling down is part of LIFE…
Getting back up is LIVING…

DON’T COMPLAIN ABOUT GROWING OLD…

FEW PEOPLE GET THE PRIVILEGE

Thanks Mom for forwarding this to me!


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